Hugs are not always just hugs. They can have a deeper meaning. They can lead into a kiss or express mourning or empathy. They can be to say hello or goodbye.
But, what are the characteristics or signs you are getting a romantic hug vs a friendly hug? How do you know that girl or guy is really into you or is just giving you the ‘deeper life hug’? Find out below.
Romantic hug vs friendly hug
Friendly Hug. A friendly hug will often be light in touch. It avoids being too severe or tight. Most hugs involve pressing your bodies together, but when friendly it is about the act of the hug, not the closeness.
Romantic Hug. When a hug is romantic in quality, it lingers. Rather than a quick hug you may give to a friend before sitting down to lunch, this hug lasts.
Friendly Hug. A friendly hug may include a pat on the back or even a few pats. Think about a hug between two college roommate who haven’t seen each other in a few years. This hug reignites friendship or even is congratulatory.
Romantic Hug. A romantic hug includes a lot of closeness and touching. This hug would include not a pat on the back, but a rub. This may also be a lower touch than would be appropriate for a platonic friendship. Faces are also pressed into the other’s shoulder in a romantic hug.
Friendly Hug. In most friendly hugs, the arms are crossed. This means your left arm may go beneath their armpit, but your right arm goes above and vice versa. There is something universally platonic about this form of hug.
Romantic Hug. Even though during the hug you probably cannot see the other person’s face, eye contact either before or after can insinuate romance. Often times eye contact can start a romantic hug, and then once the hug is released or partially released eye contact turns the hug into a kiss.
Friendly Hug. A side hug is almost always friendly. When a friend pulls you in with one arm from the side it is a sign of affection, but not usually romance. Think group photos or even family photos of everyone wrapping their arms around each other’s shoulders.
Romantic Hug. Sharing a caress within a hug makes it romantic. It can also be a sign of comfort for someone who is upset, but that usually involves a gentle rubbing of the head or arm. When this caress is made on the lower back or chest, it is likely romantic in nature.
Friendly Hug. With a friendly hug, it is common for your shoulders to be touching or even your faces. But, you keep your waists and hips apart. These do not touch in most friendly hugs.
These areas of the body are more intimate and personal. Therefore, someone hugging you and pressing the full of their body against you may be looking for a romantic hug.
Romantic Hug. A romantic hug can involve one’s arms around another’s. This means the person being hugged has less control and is grabbed in a way. The person doing the hugging squeezes the other and often times the smaller person is beneath the other’s arms.
This shows a difference in power which can be not just romantic but also intimidating or seductive.
Friendly Hug. A friendly hug is always consensual. If one person initiates the hug the other person agrees to it. A friendly hug has a respect that romantic hugs can lack in the event of abuse of power in a relationship.
Romantic Hug. Romantic hugs avoid the upper back, shoulders, and arms. These are places we hug friends. In a romantic embrace, we reach around the face and neck if we are shorter and the waist and lower back if we are taller or the same height.
Now you know…